How I got here

I’ve always been fascinated by human behavior since I was a little kid. What makes people tick, why do some people have the “it” factor, while others stay stuck in recurring patterns that yield the same upper limit they can’t seem to break free from? 

I too know what it’s like to want something better for myself only to find myself hesitating, holding back, and eventually retreating to the safety of what I know, leaving my dreams unfulfilled. 

The desire for change has been as big as starting a new business and building our home, to being as small as limiting the time spent on my phone. I’ve struggled with losing weight, making money for myself, eating fewer carbs, time enrichment for both work and play, procrastination, and depression…but most of the time I fully know what I want and know exactly what needs to be done to get there, but am unable to get myself to follow through and do it consistently enough to see positive results. Even worse, making considerable progress and then allowing something to completely derail me and throw me off course. 

“Tomorrow’s the day”

Day by day, the misalignment persists delaying my dreams. I find myself caught in a loop where my greatest intentions clash with hidden barriers, creating a gap between the life I envisioned and the one I live. It's not about lacking ambition or commitment; it's the subtle, intricate incongruencies between conscious goals and the silent scripts written by my past self out of protection. It’s easy to find excuses for why you can’t do what you know would make you thrive.

I have felt the shame and embarrassment of being no further along in my goals and dreams than I was a year ago. Trying so many different strategies only to feel the defeat of no results or little progress. Sometimes you have to stop and question everything. 

When we aren’t where we thought we would be by now, or where we want to be, we have the opportunity and duty to ask ourselves what wants to be unearthed. 

I’ve realized that what we think we are striving for is this level of “peak performance”, where we get everything right. I’ve learned it’s better to forget about “peak performance”, it’s the day-to-day moments where you have a choice to show up differently, meet the moment, and do what you said you would do when you said you would do it.

It’s knowing how to get things done, even when you don’t feel like doing them. It’s knowing when to move on when something is no longer serving you. It’s about honoring your needs and knowing not all of them may get met when you need them too and being with that discomfort. It’s about making a new decision during a vulnerable moment. It’s crafting a 2-minute window of opportunity, that when intentionally designed…makes the rest of your day easier and better. It’s creating options in advance, even if you get thrown off course, you know exactly what to do when things don’t go as planned. It’s in these ordinary moments that command your reliability and follow-through, even when things don’t go as planned, that create lasting change. 

It’s part of my calling to offer a resolution to the inherent dissonance within ourselves when we have a dream that conflicts with subconscious fears and patterns. I want to help you make progress on your goals and dreams, even when things don’t go as planned. I want to show you that you can get triggered by an old pattern and confidently have a more congruent response. I want you to feel lighter with each intentional decision you make to live the life you want.

Getting unstuck is acknowledging that the invisible tethers can be loosened, allowing you to move forward with authenticity, courage, and a genuine connection to the life you want to lead.

If you’re experiencing the challenge of not living up to your own expectations and want to learn how to break free from entrenched patterns, reclaim agency over your life, and navigate change with resilience and clarity, then I look forward to meeting you where you are on your journey.